a haircut and lessons in self confidence

A few weeks ago I finally admitted to myself that I wasn't ready to grow my hair out (which was ironic because I was already at a bob). I felt for some reason I needed to grow my hair out, that it was just time to have long hair. I really was fooling myself, because I've come to be more comfortable with experimenting with my short hair. 

This was the first cut:
I kept the undercut on the side but the whole thing just still felt too much like a bob for me. I was constantly pulling it back and just avoiding actually styling it. I've gotten busier over the past few weeks and taking care of myself was put on the back burner. SO, I made an appointment this weekend for a trim but ended up just going for it. 
This is about the shortest it's been in a very long time and I'm still getting used to styling it, but I'm loving it. 

I'll be honest, within minutes of having it cut, all of the old familiar feelings of oh my gosh what did I just do? When you cut your hair this short you can't rely on your hair to make you feel more feminine, to hide a zit, make me feel more beautiful when I'm having a fat day. When your hair is short, all of your insecurities about how you look are wide in the open, and it's quite the adjustment if it's something you're not prepared for.

Even in 2015, long hair is still the standard for feminine beauty. The majority of women we see in movies and media have long hair, if they have short hair, they're usually cute little petite women. The number one thing I hear from people is that they could never cut their hair short, "I just don't have the face". So let me put this out there: IF YOU HAVE A FACE, YOU CAN HAVE SHORT HAIR. 

I can tell you, and I know many women who can attest to this, they never regret cutting their hair. They learned so much about themselves and how they view themselves, and it resulted in a more positive body image. Now, I'm not advocating for you to just go out and chop all of your hair off (unless you've been wanting to, then by all means get to chopping!) but what I'm trying to get across here is that beauty is what we make it. Whether your hair is long or short, whether you're curvy or stick straight, you're beautiful. You're beautiful if you have freckles, or if you're on the pale side. You're beautiful if your skin is always red, if you have birthmarks. 

So, the moral of the story here: just be yourself, be what's most you, do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry about what society and what everyone else is telling you to be. You're beautiful and the length of your hair or shape of your body has nothing to do with that beauty. 

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