May 18, 2015


Happy Monday! It's Stitchfix time!

If you haven't heard of Stitchfix here are the deets: 
1) Go the link, sign up and fill out all the info they ask for about your personal tastes, they'll hook you up with a stylist who'll send you a box with 5 items that they think will look great on you, based on what you tell them.
2) Pay a $20 styling fee which includes the box shipped to you and goes toward your purchase should you choose to keep anything in the box. 
3) Get your box (which you can set up on auto for once a month or schedule them as you wish) and try on your items! You have 3 days to decide and there's a free shipping bag included to send back what you don't want.

Here's a look at what I got this round:

Bay to Baubles: Constance Stone Tassel Pendant Necklace $34

Thin chain, just the right length. I'm really picky about my jewelry, especially necklaces (I hate stuff around my neck) but really felt comfortable with this. A simple statement piece. Keeping it!

Pixley: Samy Woven Dress $74

I loved how flowy this dress was and it's rather lightweight and comfy. The length was great. I just decided not to keep it because I really have nowhere to wear a nice dress and this one seemed a bit nicer than something I could wear casually. 

Pixley: Messi Lattice Neckline Knit Top $68

I chose to dress this top up two different ways. The first one is a bit dressier, I paired it with a midi skirt and nude heels. The second look is probably how I would wear it more often. I love the detail at the top and how loose and flowy it was. Definite keeper. 

Papermoon: Georgie Knit Tank $38

 Love this top so much! Perfect summer layering top. I put a long blazer/vest with it (Forever21). This will be a new staple.

There was also a pair of denim boyfriend shorts in this box but they just really weren't my color so I didn't even try. I've been very picky with my "keep" items lately as I'm working on building a solid spring/summer wardrobe with less, but everything can be mixed and matched in different ways. Simplicity is key.

Want to give it a try? There's nothing to lose, even if you only do it once, it's a super fun experience. GO HERE to read more and sign up!

May 12, 2015

a haircut and lessons in self confidence

A few weeks ago I finally admitted to myself that I wasn't ready to grow my hair out (which was ironic because I was already at a bob). I felt for some reason I needed to grow my hair out, that it was just time to have long hair. I really was fooling myself, because I've come to be more comfortable with experimenting with my short hair. 

This was the first cut:
I kept the undercut on the side but the whole thing just still felt too much like a bob for me. I was constantly pulling it back and just avoiding actually styling it. I've gotten busier over the past few weeks and taking care of myself was put on the back burner. SO, I made an appointment this weekend for a trim but ended up just going for it. 
This is about the shortest it's been in a very long time and I'm still getting used to styling it, but I'm loving it. 

I'll be honest, within minutes of having it cut, all of the old familiar feelings of oh my gosh what did I just do? When you cut your hair this short you can't rely on your hair to make you feel more feminine, to hide a zit, make me feel more beautiful when I'm having a fat day. When your hair is short, all of your insecurities about how you look are wide in the open, and it's quite the adjustment if it's something you're not prepared for.

Even in 2015, long hair is still the standard for feminine beauty. The majority of women we see in movies and media have long hair, if they have short hair, they're usually cute little petite women. The number one thing I hear from people is that they could never cut their hair short, "I just don't have the face". So let me put this out there: IF YOU HAVE A FACE, YOU CAN HAVE SHORT HAIR. 

I can tell you, and I know many women who can attest to this, they never regret cutting their hair. They learned so much about themselves and how they view themselves, and it resulted in a more positive body image. Now, I'm not advocating for you to just go out and chop all of your hair off (unless you've been wanting to, then by all means get to chopping!) but what I'm trying to get across here is that beauty is what we make it. Whether your hair is long or short, whether you're curvy or stick straight, you're beautiful. You're beautiful if you have freckles, or if you're on the pale side. You're beautiful if your skin is always red, if you have birthmarks. 

So, the moral of the story here: just be yourself, be what's most you, do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry about what society and what everyone else is telling you to be. You're beautiful and the length of your hair or shape of your body has nothing to do with that beauty. 

May 4, 2015

everyday style vol 1.

Now, let me preface this post with a warning: I'm not a fashion blogger. I'm barely a blogger. So I'm not delving into a new horizon where I believe I can expel fashion advice to the masses. I've just been on quite a style journey over the past couple of years, really finding in enjoyment in trying to look somewhat put together and still practical and comfortable. If I can do it, you can, too! 

Ok, I'm glad we got that out of the way. 

I decided to start a series on the blog dedicated to totally doable, everyday style for just about anyone. Many fashion bloggers I see online are very much not my body type. I'm sure I'm not many people's body type either. I see things that look super cute on other women and would make me look like a beached whale on drugs. I'm hoping to provide a little bit of variety? I don't know.

I'm not going to have a million photos of an outfit and the details over and over. I just don't have the time or patience. Also, almost all the photos will be selfies done with a remote or timer and once again, I just don't have time for a million detail photos. I think if you see the photo you get the picture. I don't need need to take photos of myself at multiple angles to show what I threw together that day, around here we keeps it reals. 

So yeah. I can't promise everything I wear will look awesome together but I can promise I'll be wearing an outfit. Like, I'll have clothes on. Keepin' the expectations low, great strategy!

Shoes: DSW / Pants: Lou & Grey / Tank: Tailgate Clothing / Jacket: Lucy

Shoes: DSW / Jeans: Madewell (similar) / Tee: Madewell / Purse: Fossil (similar)

Shoes: Target / Leggings: Lorna Jane / Tank: Amuse / Sunnies: Urban Outfitters

Boots: Madewell (similar) / Jeans: Gap / Top: Lou & Grey / Bag: Fossil (similar) / headband: me :)

Sandals : Target / Jumper: Urban Outfitters / Bag: Stitchfix

Shoes: Target / Pants: Stitchfix / Top: Old Navy (similar) / Bag: Fossil (similar) / Hat: similar

April 13, 2015

cleaning house

Housework. It's probably the most time intensive thing about being a parent, or the stay at home parent who does the brunt of the cleaning. My husband does his share when he's home but as the stay at home one, I kind of see the house as part of my job responsibilities. I'm home for more hours in a day, when raising the boys essentially the entire house is my office. 

I feel like when we moved to the house (from an apartment) my need for a clean home got out of hand for awhile. I wasn't used to having so much physical space to keep clean. Not to mention a house with so many windows (floor to ceiling) and all wood floors. At night I'd find it impossible to sit down and just do nothing with Chikezie because I'd be thinking of all the things around me that I needed to do. It was exhausting. 
I tried a cleaning schedule for awhile, and have somewhat kept it in the back of my head over the past year or so. I'm not super Type A, and realistically it was difficult for me to keep with the schedule. I'd basically do one room a day and then end up getting behind and have like, the whole house to clean on the weekend. Then one day I finally forced myself to rest, to put my need for a clean home on the back burner and just allow myself to accept that some things will never be finished. It was difficult, but it's been one thing I'm proud to have worked on. 

Really, I just like having a clean home because it's relaxing. I feel happiest when everything is in it's place. This might be a good goal to have if you're single because there's nobody else to mess up your house, but when you have a family or live with anyone else, everything is hardly ever in it's place. It was a long, stressful road but I finally learned that important lesson.

Now, I'm not completely stress-free when it comes to our home. I always have a mental list running of the things I need to do. One of the most helpful tools I've discovered (I don't know where- Pinterest, a blog, something) is to do little timed bursts of cleaning. 
I like to turn my cleaning into a challenge. I'll put on my work out clothes, turn on some music and set the oven timer to 60 or 90 minutes and just see how quickly/how much I can get done in that period of time. 

Today in 90 minutes, I picked up, dusted and swept the living room. Swept the kitchen/dining room areas and vacuumed the kitchen and computer area rugs. Cleaned off the table (legs and all) and scrubbed down all 4 chairs. I prepared for mail 2 bills, cleaned off the old papers from the fridge, updated the weekly calendar. Swept the hallway and entry way. Picked up, dusted, swept and mopped the boys' room. Cleaned the entire bathroom including scrubbing the tub, the floors, dusting off the frames/clock. And did 1 load of laundry. All in 90 minutes. 

I'm not tooting my own here, ok I am a little bit. There is so much that goes into daily life as a mom and I feel like some of the most laborious tasks we complete are really what keeps everything running smoothly. The most time intensive thing we do is often the least noticed and hardly ever given vocal appreciation. But our family needs clean dishes to eat off of, soft and clean blankets to sleep with at night and clean clothes to wear each day. These are the most basic and essential needs in life. 

Ok, so folding clothes and emptying the dishwasher will always be the bane of my existence. But at least it's nice to know that even though no one is thanking me for completing such a gut wrenching task, I can comfort myself by knowing I'm keeping the ship running smoothly by doing it. Or have a little dance party for myself after I just cleaned like a beast for 90 minutes straight.

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